NO is a word many people can't, wont, don't or feel bad saying when it comes to improving their lives thru health, but why?
Why is NO such a hard word for us to say? If saying No will improve your health, your body, your mind then it doesn't seem like such a bad word now does it. I know, your afraid of what people will say, think and how they will make you feel when you say NO. Unfortunately they DON'T have your goals, they CAN'T get you to them by hindering you and they SHOULDN'T make you feel bad about them. Only YOU can do all of that. So YOU need to find the reason of why saying NO is so hard for you and decide how to fix that. YOU need to decide whats more important, your own goals or their hurt feelings and YOU need to decide when YES is OK.
NO has always been negative. NO I can't do this, or NO you can't do that, but why? I know, It can be associated with failure. Many have been told all our lives we can't, we won't succeed or why would you even try that (that's not fun). Well just because someone says you can't or you think you can't does not mean its true. Have you tried? Maybe, Have you failed? Probably, Have you tried again? Most likely not. That is because most people associate failure with not being able to ever do it. That is the furthest from the truth. Failure is NEVER trying again. SUCCESS is failing and falling MANY, MANY, MANY times and trying that one more time!
NO as a positive. Never thought of that huh? Well NO is a good thing! Saying NO means your in control of your own life. You decide what is best, and you decide what you need to do. Giving into someone just because they might pressure you means your not living for yourself. Why would you want to live for someone else's own pleasure?
I learned long ago that the word NO isn't such a bad word. I don't feel bad for saying it and the people around me who are my friends understand why. They understand why because I have explained to them why Im doing what I do and that it is important to me. Since it is important to me they support! I have learned to surround myself with great people, not just people who I'm around everyday because I have found that the best people in life are the ones you talk to less often or rarely see. The everyday people I have learned are mostly there when your on the same page and when you tweak an interest they question the friendship or try to steer you in another direction (their own agenda in mind). Again, they CAN'T live your life for you! I'm not saying don't be friends with them, I'm just saying you can control who you are around, and when you surround yourself with like-minded people or people who may not be like-minded but accepting of a difference in life then it will be much easier on you to achieve your goals.
There are times when YES is ok too! When you learn how to say NO, YES can come out more often. How so you ask, well once you reach your goals or you learn that your in control of your own life you can say YES a little more often. You may be out to dinner and want to enjoy drinks, so far all you have been doing is saying NO NO NO well you have learned thru that period of NO's that u reached your goals and instead of having 4 drinks you will only have 1. That is you learning in moderation. You KNOW that if u have a lot it may mess with your success but if you want to enjoy in moderation, YES becomes a word you can use more often. Make sense? Don't get to YES crazy now because it will hinder. Hopefully by the time you get to this point you will know when and when not to say YES.
So you see, NO is up to you. No is positive and imperative to your focus of health regardless of what others think or say. You are living for you not for someone else's feelings or comfort. This may seem harsh but if you explain to them why, many will understand:)!
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