My life in a nut shell.

Me 2010

      There have been many events in my life that have brought me to where I am now. There have been great things and many things that may have made most people depressed, go down a wrong path or make me a bitter and hateful person. For some reason I glad to be none of those things and what ever it is that has led me to here and to today I'm grateful for all the life experiences I have had. Changing those things would change me and I wouldn't want that for one second.

      So, why am I writing this? Why do I think people will care to read this? Well, so many of you out there that follow me may be wondering how it may be possible or may be living a similar experience and want to know how things can be better. Everyone will react to their own life in a different way, Im just here to share a little of myself to you.

My wedding day

      As of today I am a 28 year old women. Im a wife, mother, hairdresser and a soon to be certificed fitness nutritionalist and personal trainer. Anything that is put in from of me I will take on. Fail or succeed I'll be happy to have tried it once. Im currently living as a single parent by choice, and by that I mean when I chose to marry a military man I chose to take on the responsibility of single parenthood if it called for it. Im studying full time everyday for my personal training certification and also in fitness nutrition. I am training everyday for my spring competition for the NPC Bikini division. Everyday is a struggle to keep up with a growing almost 1 yr old. He recently has a pretty major accident and fell and sliced his head open and having to deal with that was a pretty scary thing, 911 was called, the ambulance took him to the hospital where he was all patched up and he is now home and just fine. I wake up every morning between 4:30 and 5 AM to get in my breakfast before he wakes up. Ill check emails, watch the news, enjoy coffee and start to study until he wakes up. When Tesla wakes up its snuggles, feeding, booty changes and getting ready to get out the door and to daycare. I pack for the next few hrs, meals, waters, bottles and anything else we may need and head out the door. Daycare at 8am and then off to the gym to train, eat again and if time permits ill run and tan, come home and clean, grocery shop, etc before I go pic up Tesla at 11am. Off to home we go where its go, go, go….stand up sit down, crawl crawl crawl, stand up sit down, lunch for us both and then naps for Tesla. While he naps Ill study, talk with Chris, prep foods if needed, clean a part of the house (cuz that never gets done all in one day now, lol), and then T wakes up. More play time, usually a walk to the park and more meals to be ate. When we get home from any activity we may do its more play, books, snuggles, prepping for the next day, dinner time, bed time for Tesla and then back to studying. Everyday there is something new to school as well. It may be long essays, case studies, testing, etc. I am so grateful to get those few hours in the morning to train and have some personal time because with Chris being gone and doing this alone it makes for LONG days. This is my everyday, I don't go out (although I miss it), we are pretty new to the area so we don't know many people here yet and studying, training and a busy boy take up all my time. One thing nice about Tesla is that he goes with the flow so when its needed and I need to go do something I never hesitate to do so because he acts wonderful. I want to involve him in everything and not use him as an excuse as to why I can't, because I know I can!

1st deployment

      Life in the army. Not everyone can hack it as a military spouse. Im not saying that to be rude either. Truth is, your alone more then your together, you sleep in your bed alone more then together, you miss holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and so much more together. If your not strong minded, happy with yourself and happy knowing you can be alone if needed you will now be happy. I am happy with who I am alone as an individual and where I am as an individual and that is vital to a happy life (IMO) and a successful life in the military.

     

Jan 14

Life as a competitor. This has been a trip! As self centered as some people may think competing is, I believe that is shows character, determination, discipline, and I believe it teaches you self respect and happiness. That being said, you have to be in the right mind set for that all to take place. Doing competitions has made me realize all those things and that is what I have taken away from my experiences. I don't go in thinking I'm the best, I don't go in to win, I don't go in comparing myself to others (although yes sometime you don't understand what the judges were thinking), I go into the competition with a clear mind, at peace and knowing that what I did to get there is something that the strong minded can do! Training for a competition takes a huge toll on you body, mind and relationships. Im always sore, tired some days, want cheat meals and I lose precious time with the family. This sport has thought me so many things tho, things that also help with the reasons why those things I just mentioned are not easy to give up but to know that one day it may teach Tesla to strive for your goals. He will see that sacrifice is necessary to reach goals, that you will have to say no to things that you want to do but can't if you can't to succeed and most of all he will learn to be a healthy active young man. That is most important to me!

Mr. Booty 2013

      Life as a mom. Many of you know I never wanted to have children. I still don't want to have anymore. Having one is enough for me and our life as the Anderson family. It was not for selfish reasons that I didn't want kids. I just had never had the desire to raise a family. I don't believe that you need children in your life to make it complete. Tesla is almost a year old and I'm still getting used to the idea of being a parent. Its a learning experience thats for sure. It has made me a stronger person, I have been learning that I need to let things go and I have learned that there are some things I can and can't control. Being a parent gives you the responsibility to raise a well rounded child into a successful (we all hope) adult, and with all the life experiences I have had I hope that he will learn and appreciate to respect life and take on responsibilities as they come. As any parent I get frustrated, overwhelmed and want to take a break from it all but keeping focus, showing commitment and taking a deep breath here and there I make it thru each day and hope that even tho I never dreamed of being a mom that Ill be the best one that I can be to our son. P.S. Taking time for yourself, working out, girl time, putting them to bed early, etc i believe is necessary for you to stay happy. Yes, I know its about the children and many of you may disagree or feel you font have the time, but having those few precious moments to yourself keeps your sanity and if that means your spouse or significant other takes on more responsibility well then thats life:)!

2011

      My life before all of that. I loved my life before marriage, parenthood, army life and my new found passion and love for healthy living. I lived on my own, I worked at an amazing hair salon with some friends I miss more then anything, with clients I miss all the time. Life has a funny way of changing when you least expect it. I never thought that marriage would come in in 20's but it did and Im forever grateful for that. That love is what took me away from a life that I will never get back. A life I don't want back but a life I miss as well. If it were not for that love I would never have traveled to the places I have, I would have never moved from Michigan, learned how to be a great wife, learned the sorrow or live lessons, and I would have never even thought of the healthy life we enjoy now. Its because of that love and that life change that I'm sitting here writing to you all. Its because I loved my life before as a single, unmarried and no baby life that I was able to love enough to change my entire life. My life before 2010 was a huge part of what made me me who I am today, but its been my life after that will define me as who I have and will become, because it its only after marriage that I have learned who I really am.





       What defines someone as a person? Id like to think its the message someone takes away from you, that you leave a good impression and that people will want to be better because of that.

      If there is anything else you all wish to know, please feel free to comment below and ill be glad to answer.